>> Why We Have This Emotion
Insecurity alerts us to social risks. It encourages us to pay attention to social expectations, build relationships, and make improvements to protect our status and maintain social acceptance.
◎ What to do in the moment
Good Ideas
- Set aside a “confidence” outfit
- Practice ahead of time, if possible
- Try it in a lower-stakes setting first
- Pick one skill gap to work on
- Ask a mentor for project input
- Write your wins in a “receipts” list
- Detox on social media
Bad Ideas
- Make grand “self reinvention” plans
- Over-edit each message/email
- Compare yourself to others
- Downplay your own needs
- Fish for compliments
- Let one troll dictate your mood
- Police your pain to favor others