>> Why We Have This Emotion
Hurt signals social damage. It forces us to pause, protect ourselves, and learn what to avoid next time. It can push us to reassess our social connections and change our behavior.
◎ What to do in the moment
Good Ideas
- Name the wound precisely
- Ask a friend for a reality check
- Soothe: shower, walk, tea, cuddles
- Mute threads that retrigger the hurt
- Wait to reflect on any lessons
- Protect yourself AND be kind
- Draft a response for later
Bad Ideas
- Make big decisions while hurt
- Pretend you're fine indefinitely
- Public callouts over a private issue
- Reply in the heat of the moment
- Retaliate against that person
- Assume what their motives were instead of asking directly