>> Why We Have This Emotion
When we feel appreciated, we know where we stand and trust that things are fair. That kind of recognition brings us closer to other, and motivates us to keep building relationships.
◎ What to do in the moment
Good Ideas
- Savor the praise for a moment
- Ask “what should I keep doing?”
- Express appreciation for others
- Identify specifics, where possible
- Note the real moments of impact
- Balance external and internal praise
- Appreciate praise, but don't expect it
Bad Ideas
- Dismiss all praise as “manipulative”
- Deflect or minimize praise
- Interpret neutrality as rejection
- Tie your worth to external validation
- Compare yourself to others
- Overwork to “earn” more praise
- Fish for compliments and praise