>> Why We Have This Emotion
When we feel appreciated, we know where we stand and trust that things are fair. That kind of recognition brings us closer to other, and motivates us to keep building relationships.
◎ What to do in the moment
Good Ideas
- Ask “what should I keep doing?”
- Savor the praise for a moment
- Express appreciation for others
- Balance external / internal praise
- Clarify expectations for the future
- Log moments of real impact
- Ask for specifics, if appropriate
Bad Ideas
- Dismiss all praise as “manipulative”
- Deflect or minimize praise
- Interpret neutrality as rejection
- Tie your worth to external validation
- Compare yourself to others
- Overwork to “earn” more praise
- Fish for compliments and praise