>> Why We Have This Emotion
Confelicity pushes us to express our support for others by highlighting their wins in non-competitive ways, bonding with them, and showing them that they matter to us.
◎ What to do in the moment
Good Ideas
- “I'm so happy for you!”
- Celebrate their win in a concrete way
- Let their win inspire your own goals
- Invite them to reflect on their effort
- Enjoy the bonding moment
- Remember the details to bring up their achievement later
Bad Ideas
- Downplay their achievement
- Suggest that they just got lucky
- Insert yourself to make it "our" win
- Compare it to your own successes
- Treat their win as a personal threat
- Use their success to pressure them
- Hope that their success collapses